Are you Spiritually Healthy?

Why and how can we take more care of our spiritual health?

Modern psychologist are discovering that our modern mental health issues like depression and anxiety are so closely related to our spiritual health. The two are directly linked.

Our spiritual health affects our mental health.

In turn our spiritual and mental health affects all our relationships, our perception of the world and our physical health.

Psychologists and theologians are also discovering that

our sexuality is directly linked to our spiritual health

and of course, in turn our mental and physical health.

So this means when our sexuality is suppressed, repressed or demonized in any way by ourselves or others our spiritual health suffers. We become less inspired about life and we start to experience things like depression and anxiety.

I don’t think I need to go into the history of sexual oppression because that would take a couple of volumes. We all know and still feel the sexual unease and confusion society still suffers from. The minority’s feel it the most; women and homosexuals.

So let’s focus on the positive and the future and what we can do for our own internal growth and health. In any relationship when one person can hold onto themselves it changes the whole dynamics.

When you know who you are at your deepest core which includes your sexuality and spiritual self, then your self worth is not negotiable. Taking care of your mental and spiritual health is not negotiable. It is not something that needs to be managed by medication or therapy. It is something that needs to be nurtured by YOU and you only. You are the gate keeper to your soul. Don’t let the cows trample your garden. Water your garden with inspiration that speaks to your soul and you will naturally flourish.

We NEED to do this for our selves, our kids, our relationships and for society. We can change our world. We can raise our vibrations and by osmosis, those around us.

Spirituality is like education. There are many versions, many opinions, many authority’s. We think we have to do this course or finish this degree to be someone to “know”. One of the most important lessons I have learnt in life is;

I am in charge of my own education.

That doesn’t mean doing the right degree or course. It means going deeper and finding out for myself. It means doing my own research beyond what you are meant to know and learn.

The same applies to spirituality. You can not place your spiritual health and soul in the hands of one minister, or priest or so called spiritual authority.

YOU are the only spiritual authority for your soul.

Religion takes this authority away.

I don’t have a religion. I don’t have a spiritual system. I am spiritual because my soul speaks to me.

There are many spiritual practices out there and I don’t think you should follow any of them. Gather, learn, feed your soul. Create your own spiritual practice. Nurture your soul and your life will be amazing.

When I was a kid I just wanted to be normal, to fit in. Now it’s the exact opposite. I am not satisfied with normal and acceptable. I want an exception life. My spirit yearns for an exceptional life. Normal is like being chained to the earth and a certain way of living. Normal is following the rules of oppression.

Is your spirit free? Do you have waves of euphoria wash over. You for no reason? If you follow ‘the norm’ waves of euphoria are very rare. If you are. Normal moments free of anxiety and pressure are rare. Our base line is busy and stressed. We don’t leave room in our life for nurturing our spirit and soul.

Make room for your spiritual health. Make time to nurture your soul. Without it, life is a prison.

How to inspire your relationship and sex life

What turns you on? Do you know that you are auto-erotic? Can you allow yourself to be auto-erotic or have you spent most of your life suppressing your sexuality and desire?

“sexual desire is energy- a sustainable resource that’s available to us if we want it, even those of us who may not have it right now.” Gina Ogden; The Return of Desire.

So many of us live our lives numb to pleasure and desire. We have put up walls and defences to traumas that we aren’t even aware about. We find our sexual relationships stuck in Ground Hog day, repeating painful patterns that end up in even more defences.

Research has shown that sexual and spiritual experience share a common and undeniable core quality: a hunger for connection and meaning. (Ogden 2008)

Your sexuality is not just about intercourse. Sexual energy is creative energy, it is inspiring energy, it is divine energy. You can feel it when you feel connected to the earth and your authentic self. Being auto-erotic is being turned on by life, turned on by a beautiful sunset. It is being turned on by the way we can move and how healthy we feel. It is being turned on by an exciting and new idea. It is random waves of euphoria that wash over us at unexpected moments during an average day. It is feeling connected, to ourself, to others, to strangers, to the universe. It is a way of being.

When discover our own “turn on” and feel “auto-erotic” then we can bring this to our relationship to re-inspire it. It is then no longer the responsibility of our partner to turn us on, because we already are. This takes a lot of pressure and expectations off our relationship to fulfill us. We are then bringing a renewed and fresh energy to our relationship. Your partner will truly appreciate you more and probably fall in love with you all over again.

OYoga’s approach to sexual desire is much more than physical. Your sexuality is connected to your spirituality and if you allow yourself to go deeper and find orgasmic flow you can construct your life around what is meaningful and inspirational.

OYoga’s philosophy centres on inspiring your life and keeping you turned on by life. OYoga and Orgasmic flow is a transformational practice and brings pleasure that touches your core. You can create an energy that not only infuses and inspires your own heart and soul but also inspires your relationship.

Orgasm wakes us up and ignites our energy. Orgasmic Flow takes us deeper into a spiritual realm of inspiration and divine connection. Connecting with your own orgasmic flow enhances your relationship with yourself and your partner.

I invite you to re-inspire your life and relationship with OYoga and Intimate Inspirations.

The Purpose of the Female Orgasm

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For hundreds of years scientists have wondered and speculated what is the purpose of the female orgasm. They must have been male or they would have found out. I found this quote from a recent (2011) scientist;

 “Figuring out the function of female orgasm, if any, will probably require very large genetically informative samples, fertility data, and detailed information on sexual behaviour, orgasm rate, and the conditions and partners involved.”

I don’t need a scientist to figure it out for me. I am female and I know the purpose of the female orgasm and it is very important and significantly affects the quality of a woman’s life. It’s not about fertility or incentive to procreate. It’s not about partner selection or genetics.

So what is the point of female orgasms? The experts are still out on that one.

They are not just a feel good lovely way to bond with your partner.

The purpose is a higher purpose; Inspiration.

An orgasm and being orgasmic is about being turned on by life. It is a womans’ link to her intuition and higher creativity. It’s her source of energy and empowerment. It is her connection to guidance and divinity. Orgasm keeps her passionate and in love with herself and life. It’s her birthright as a woman to be multi orgasmic. Why would you want to go through life without them! Share this article if you agree.

Connection before Correction

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Do you find yourself in frequent argument with your partner? Are the frequent arguments usually about the same topic? Do you get exasperated and feel that your partner never listens to you  and completely disregards your view on a particular topic? Do you feel they are arguing just because they want to be right? Chances are you are too!

When our busy lives take over and we spend less and less time connecting with our spouses,  our connection and intimacy suffers. The result; more frequent arguments…. over petty things. We stop listening to each other. We stop making time for each other. We avoid hard conversations. We don’t feel like connecting and being intimate because we are holding on to resentment. It becomes a catch 22 situation, “I’ll make love with my partner when I’m not so angry with him”.

Find your own orgasm, bring your own turned on feeling to your relationship.

Whats going on? What can you do to get out of this familiar but damaging pattern? The answer is child psychology. No your partner isn’t a child but child psychology can gives us great advice that is also relevant to our relationship.

Child psychology now tells us that attachment is the most important thing our kids need. When they feel secure and are close to parents they are more likely to listen to their parents and accept guidance and correction. They are less likely to be led astray by peer group pressure or become peer focused.

Connect before you correct.

Connect before you correct is how we should approach our children and our spouses. If we are not connected then trust is weakened. If we are always yelling trust is weakened. If we are always criticising then trust is weakened.

Connect…… verbally and physically.

We need physical connection more than anything in the world. Physical connection is like air. We shrivel and die without it. Our relationships shrivel and die without it. Our connection dies without it. Hold on to your kids and hold on to your partner.

Physical connection builds trust. We all need someone that we trust most in this world and that should be our parents for kids and our spouse for adults.

When we focus on intimacy, physical and verbal, then the subjects that cause issues are better received. There is less rebellion and more understanding. When we are full of oxytocin the cuddle hormone, then we are not going to want to fight about it.

Most couples have a ‘hot topic’, one that is guaranteed to trigger defensiveness and criticism. How do you approach these topics? Cuddle first? Well yes but make sure the cuddle bank is full. This is a long term investment. And do you know what really gets a relationship buzzing? What was that drug you both felt when you first fell in love? Dopamine, yes dopamine makes you feel soooooo good. Combine dopamine with oxytocin to stabilise it and you have a fabulous concoction for a great long term connection.

Where does dopamine come from? Orgasm. Where does orgasm come from? That’s easy to answer if you are a guy. A little more tricky for women but it doesn’t have to be. It is not your partners’ responsibility to make you orgasm. It’s really up to you to find your own orgasm first, your own turn on so that you can bring it to your relationship. This takes so much pressure off him (or her if you are in a same sex relationship).

Find your orgasm, find your turn on, come to your relationship turned on by life!

Let your intimacy inspire you both.

Understanding the Feminine Mystique

LayersofChic-how-to-dress-1950s-housewife-style-betty-draperThe Feminine Mystique is an idealized image of domestic femininity that arose in the early 1950’s. Betty Friedan wrote about the crisis that ‘has no name’ that plagued women of the 1950’s and 1960’s in her book The Feminine Mystique. Friedan interviewed homemakers about their dissatisfaction with their picture perfect domestic life; working and often well paid husband, children, nice home, the ability to buy clothes, haircuts and domestic appliances. Life for them was meant to be fulfilling according to the media that reinforced the ideal of the American housewife and advertisers who took advantage of their dissatisfaction by selling them the next new appliance that would make their life easier and more satisfying.

Women were socially pressured into becoming housewives and women as young as 17 were getting married before they even left college. If they happened to enter college and even finish college they gave away their future to become the perfect wife and mother.

The life of a house wife prevents women from developing their own identity and keeps them dependent and at the financial mercy of their husband. Friedan encourages women to seek fulfillment in education rather than pursuing the image of the Feminine Mystique.

What Friedan describes as the Feminine Mystique is known today as being a “domestic Goddess”. Could it possibly be that the ‘condition with no name’ is actually a contributor to post natal depression. Women are now having children later and later because they are actually focusing more on their career first. The loss of identity is actually more profound after having a career and independence. It is also easier for women now to reclaim  an identity that they once had, than never establishing one in the first place.

So is The Feminine Mystique still relevant to us today? Absolutely. Media today still targets women creating an ideal of perfect mother and homemaker. Women are made to feel guilty if they can’t breast feed or if they go back to work too early. But it’s not all about making babies and home making and fitting in a career. If that is all that is need to have a fulfilling life as a women then why aren’t we all completely fulfilled?

There is more to feeling in charge and empowered and ‘turned on by life’ than successfully juggling children, home, and career. Self help ‘guru’s’ are popping up everywhere and we are very privileged to enter an age where information and education is easily accessible. The guru’s tout “find and follow your passion”, not just a career. But is that really the answer? Yes it will certainly help the fulfillment levels if you are following your passion and earning money while you are at it but is there more?

I believe there is more. Please don’t feel greedy wanting more and I mean this in a non-materialistic way. You deserve more. You can feel turned on by life. It is available to you. So what is the answer to ‘more’?

More is a connection to spirit and inspiration. It is a way to tap into your creativity and intuition. It is a source of energy and empowerment that strengthens you and guides you.

Women are blessed with an ability that is out of men’s reach and this is our ‘magic potion’ to connecting us to the ‘more’ we are looking for. The hardest part for most of us is tapping in to this magic potion. It is available to all of us no mater our age, the biggest block is our belief systems instilled into us over centuries that keep a woman ‘chemically castrated’. That may seem like a harsh term to use but that is literally what our belief system does to us. It affects our hormones and our freedom to connect to our self and our own bodies.

So yes a magic potion sounds wonderfully easy and a simple solution, but to access that magic potion can take a lot of unpacking and relearning. So where do you start? You may not consciously know what the blocks are and where they come from. But we need to do this work for our own sake and the sake of our daughters. We need to notice what beliefs surrounding sexuality, relationships and marriage that we are passing on to our daughters. We need to be ultra conscious and vigilant of noticing how our belief systems affect the way we treat ourselves and how in turn that teaches people how to treat us.

We have to be conscious of parts of our self and identity we give up or hide to please others and to fit in and be socially acceptable. Yes social media is a fantastic innovation but we have also seen the side effects especially on young teenagers who are using it to search for validation and an identity. So we do have more and more platforms to express ourselves but those same platforms also become a source of criticism and deformation of character.

The Magic Potion we have within us is a matter of connection and self validation; with ourselves. This is where your journey starts to become orgasmicly inspired. It is an eye opening and amazing journey which you will need some help and guidance. Start your journey as soon as you can no matter what stage you are at. It is so worth it to be Turned on by Life!