Are you a consumer or a creator?


If you are a consumer you will be asking “how can I get more orgasms”. 

If you are a creator you will be asking “what can I create from orgasms”. (besides babies)

The consumer is the shadow side of the creator. We all have a consumer within us and as I have mentioned before, embrace your shadow. Acknowledge this side of yourself so that you have more honour and reverence for the creator in you. 

The consumer in us wants more. The consumer in us is rarely satisfied  and is attracted to quick fixes and new products that will bring us bliss and euphoria. The consumer in us is easily sold but never easily satisfied. 

The creator in us thrives on inspiration. The creator in us approaches problems and issues completely differently to the consumer in us. We look for a creative solution and not just a quick fix. The creator wants to give back to the world, not take. The creator knows that pain is a part of the whole experience and can tolerate pain for growth. Pain becomes almost a privilege because it can be the seed of transformation.  A creators reaction to pain is “bring it on!” 

When we are in our consumer frame of mind we want pleasure to avoid pain. We look for this pleasure in many different places. In the shopping mall, at the restaurant, and on Tinder. We buy faster cars and bigger houses with fancier appliances. We take antidepressants. We do anything to avoid pain. We immerse ourselves in social media to avoid the perceived pain and discomfort of actual connection and possible rejection. 

When we approach orgasms from a consumer frame of mind, it becomes something we want and have to have to feel satisfied. Orgasms become a way of finding pleasure to avoid pain. The more we have the more we want. The chemistry from this approach to orgasms actually gives us a hangover and more pain in the long run. If you would like to know more about this chemistry and the hangover it produces read Cupids Poison Arrow; From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships by Marnia Robinson. 

Yes orgasms are pleasurable and can be addictive, leaving you wanting more. The ‘more’ is in the Flow. Orgasmic Flow. This is where true and deep satisfaction is realised. This is where you find connection, spiritual connection to a higher power that connects us all. We all have access to this connection but not all of us know how to tap in to this incredible power we have available. Our mind and negative thinking disconnects us. Orgasmic Flow brings us back in connection with this higher power. Orgasmic Flow connects us to the creator within us. Orgasmic Flow connects us to a higher vibrational energy that flows through us and brings us in alignment with spirit. This is where inspiration comes from, being “in-spirit.”

Orgasmic Flow is an alternated state and it doesn’t have to end with an orgasm or then some. And it’s not the same state you get from drinking one too many wines. This is the perfect time to mention that drinking alcohol actually dampens the altered state that you are trying to create. I did not touch a drop of alcohol for years for fear of destroying the constant state of flow I was in. Alcohol fulfils its promise of numbing the brain and body, a way of disconnecting us from how we really feel. We drink to forget to find an escape from reality and our problems. We drink to put ourselves in an altered state, but not a higher altered state, it turns out to be a much lower altered state. We drink to calm the drunken monkeys in our head. Let me tell you that yoga is a far better way to calm the drunken monkeys and without the hangover and calories. 

Orgasmic flow is a higher vibrational state than just the goal of reaching orgasm for pleasure and satisfaction. In Flow, Living at the peak of your abilities, Mihaly talks about approaching activities with a goal in mind which helps you enter the state of flow more easily. And so is the state of Orgasmic Flow. The goal is NOT the orgasm itself, especially if you are male. The goal is to stimulate the creator in you and liberate your higher creativity.

So yes there is a goal and NO, the goal is not orgasm. Whether you are male or female, let go of the idea that you have to orgasm to reach this state. Having the thought ‘I must orgasm’ is a sure way to scare orgasms away. When we ‘have to’ orgasm we contract, we use force which is the opposite to power and flow. Flow can not be forced. 

If you are a guy, orgasm and ejaculation will immediately end the state of flow (and even put some men to sleep). If you are a woman, orgasms can put you in a state of flow. Once in this state, chances are orgasms will flow as you go deeper and deeper into this state. You may even find that you don’t want to orgasm and where you are, is where you want to be.

How to create an amazing energy field

In this video I’m going to take you through a meditation to raise your vibrations and create an amazing energy field.

When you combine this meditation with your OYoga practice your energy will be elevated and your vibrations will be raised affecting your life in deeply profound ways.

I’ve taught thousands how to inspire their life by retraining their subconscious mind through orgasmic flow and sexual transmutation. I hope you too can experience a turned on life through orgasmic flow.

I am turned on by life!

Combine this guided Meditation with your OYoga practice!

Intiamtely Inspired Meditations presents I am turned on by life! Being auto-erotic empowers all areas of your life. Our orgasmic energy is creative energy. Use this powerful meditation lying, sitting, walking or with your OYoga practice to elevate your energy, spark your creativity and inspire your life.

How to inspire your relationship and sex life

What turns you on? Do you know that you are auto-erotic? Can you allow yourself to be auto-erotic or have you spent most of your life suppressing your sexuality and desire?

“sexual desire is energy- a sustainable resource that’s available to us if we want it, even those of us who may not have it right now.” Gina Ogden; The Return of Desire.

So many of us live our lives numb to pleasure and desire. We have put up walls and defences to traumas that we aren’t even aware about. We find our sexual relationships stuck in Ground Hog day, repeating painful patterns that end up in even more defences.

Research has shown that sexual and spiritual experience share a common and undeniable core quality: a hunger for connection and meaning. (Ogden 2008)

Your sexuality is not just about intercourse. Sexual energy is creative energy, it is inspiring energy, it is divine energy. You can feel it when you feel connected to the earth and your authentic self. Being auto-erotic is being turned on by life, turned on by a beautiful sunset. It is being turned on by the way we can move and how healthy we feel. It is being turned on by an exciting and new idea. It is random waves of euphoria that wash over us at unexpected moments during an average day. It is feeling connected, to ourself, to others, to strangers, to the universe. It is a way of being.

When discover our own “turn on” and feel “auto-erotic” then we can bring this to our relationship to re-inspire it. It is then no longer the responsibility of our partner to turn us on, because we already are. This takes a lot of pressure and expectations off our relationship to fulfill us. We are then bringing a renewed and fresh energy to our relationship. Your partner will truly appreciate you more and probably fall in love with you all over again.

OYoga’s approach to sexual desire is much more than physical. Your sexuality is connected to your spirituality and if you allow yourself to go deeper and find orgasmic flow you can construct your life around what is meaningful and inspirational.

OYoga’s philosophy centres on inspiring your life and keeping you turned on by life. OYoga and Orgasmic flow is a transformational practice and brings pleasure that touches your core. You can create an energy that not only infuses and inspires your own heart and soul but also inspires your relationship.

Orgasm wakes us up and ignites our energy. Orgasmic Flow takes us deeper into a spiritual realm of inspiration and divine connection. Connecting with your own orgasmic flow enhances your relationship with yourself and your partner.

I invite you to re-inspire your life and relationship with OYoga and Intimate Inspirations.

Flow

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Have you ever been so absorbed in something that nothing else mattered? Have you ever felt so “in the zone” that what you were doing just flowed effortlessly? Have you been in a state where inspiration flowed and you don’t even know where your ideas came from? Have you ever felt ‘a knowing’ so deep that it had to be the right path/decision/inspiration? Did you notice that during these times you felt so good, it felt so right, that you were happiest and most creative and inspired? You were in FLOW. It not only feels fantastic to be in flow, it can be a way you reconnect with your intuition, your creativity, wellbeing and your divine being.

What is flow?

The state of flow has been studied by psychologist Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi. His goal was to understand happiness and what made life worth living. We tend to lump this responsibility on to our loved ones and usually end up frustrated and disappointed. The answer to a fulfilling life is not just love.

Csikzentmihalyi found out through his research that it was people who spent time in a flow state to be happiest more productive and creative. Further research by Graham found that couples who engaged in activities of flow together had happier relationships. When we are experiencing flow, certain parts of the brain become quieter especially the superior frontal gyrus. This siliences our inner critic and fears allowing intense focus and inspiration to flow freely uninhibited.

So when we are in a state of flow it is easier to think more creatively and more courageously. Your sense of self expands and you are able to imagine new possibilities. We are too involved in what we are doing to protect our ego and we emerge from a state of flow with a greater sense of self. We forget ourselves and become totally immersed in what we are doing. It is a highly productive and creative state. We may even forget to eat for an extended period of time and tiredness isn’t felt. A super focused mind is far more efficient and creative than a distracted mind. We solve problems faster and can even feel tapped in to intuition and divine guidance. Most importantly, it feels effortless and we emerge feeling inspired and turned on by life.

The state of flow is a healing state as it changes the chemistry of the brain. There are five potent neurochemicals that are released when we are in flow that amplify the immune system; dopamine, noradrenaline, endorphins, serotonin and anandamide. (Kotler 2014)

The state of flow buys us moments of freedom that help the body and mind heal.

Flow reconnects us to our self and reminds us how good we are meant to feel.

So What is Orgasmic Flow?

Orgasmic flow is not just about orgasm. It is about being turned on by life and in a state of flow. Orgasmic flow starts with energy, sensual energy we build from our OYoga practice. We combine that energy with intention or what is called Intimate Inspirations. Where your focus goes your energy flows.

Without focused intention, our energy can become scattered and confusing and even overwhelming and in reaction we can shut it down again. OYoga is a very intentional practice that helps us feel and direct sensual energy towards an inspiring and exceptional life. It is through OYoga that we can reach a state of flow, orgasmic flow. Our orgasmic flow state acts like a magnifying glass taking us deeper into our intentions and inspirations.

What does Orgasmic Flow feel like?

  • Complete absorption in what you are doing.
  • Turned on by what you are doing.
  • Clarity and a feeling of knowing without doubt.
  • Confidence without your inner critic.
  • Freedom from worry about what anyone thinks about you.
  • Timelessness and egolessness.
  • Empowerment.
  • Control and a sense of mastery.
  • Creative and inspired. Keep a pen and paper handy when you are in flow.

 

 

The Purpose of the Female Orgasm

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For hundreds of years scientists have wondered and speculated what is the purpose of the female orgasm. They must have been male or they would have found out. I found this quote from a recent (2011) scientist;

 “Figuring out the function of female orgasm, if any, will probably require very large genetically informative samples, fertility data, and detailed information on sexual behaviour, orgasm rate, and the conditions and partners involved.”

I don’t need a scientist to figure it out for me. I am female and I know the purpose of the female orgasm and it is very important and significantly affects the quality of a woman’s life. It’s not about fertility or incentive to procreate. It’s not about partner selection or genetics.

So what is the point of female orgasms? The experts are still out on that one.

They are not just a feel good lovely way to bond with your partner.

The purpose is a higher purpose; Inspiration.

An orgasm and being orgasmic is about being turned on by life. It is a womans’ link to her intuition and higher creativity. It’s her source of energy and empowerment. It is her connection to guidance and divinity. Orgasm keeps her passionate and in love with herself and life. It’s her birthright as a woman to be multi orgasmic. Why would you want to go through life without them! Share this article if you agree.

Connection before Correction

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Do you find yourself in frequent argument with your partner? Are the frequent arguments usually about the same topic? Do you get exasperated and feel that your partner never listens to you  and completely disregards your view on a particular topic? Do you feel they are arguing just because they want to be right? Chances are you are too!

When our busy lives take over and we spend less and less time connecting with our spouses,  our connection and intimacy suffers. The result; more frequent arguments…. over petty things. We stop listening to each other. We stop making time for each other. We avoid hard conversations. We don’t feel like connecting and being intimate because we are holding on to resentment. It becomes a catch 22 situation, “I’ll make love with my partner when I’m not so angry with him”.

Find your own orgasm, bring your own turned on feeling to your relationship.

Whats going on? What can you do to get out of this familiar but damaging pattern? The answer is child psychology. No your partner isn’t a child but child psychology can gives us great advice that is also relevant to our relationship.

Child psychology now tells us that attachment is the most important thing our kids need. When they feel secure and are close to parents they are more likely to listen to their parents and accept guidance and correction. They are less likely to be led astray by peer group pressure or become peer focused.

Connect before you correct.

Connect before you correct is how we should approach our children and our spouses. If we are not connected then trust is weakened. If we are always yelling trust is weakened. If we are always criticising then trust is weakened.

Connect…… verbally and physically.

We need physical connection more than anything in the world. Physical connection is like air. We shrivel and die without it. Our relationships shrivel and die without it. Our connection dies without it. Hold on to your kids and hold on to your partner.

Physical connection builds trust. We all need someone that we trust most in this world and that should be our parents for kids and our spouse for adults.

When we focus on intimacy, physical and verbal, then the subjects that cause issues are better received. There is less rebellion and more understanding. When we are full of oxytocin the cuddle hormone, then we are not going to want to fight about it.

Most couples have a ‘hot topic’, one that is guaranteed to trigger defensiveness and criticism. How do you approach these topics? Cuddle first? Well yes but make sure the cuddle bank is full. This is a long term investment. And do you know what really gets a relationship buzzing? What was that drug you both felt when you first fell in love? Dopamine, yes dopamine makes you feel soooooo good. Combine dopamine with oxytocin to stabilise it and you have a fabulous concoction for a great long term connection.

Where does dopamine come from? Orgasm. Where does orgasm come from? That’s easy to answer if you are a guy. A little more tricky for women but it doesn’t have to be. It is not your partners’ responsibility to make you orgasm. It’s really up to you to find your own orgasm first, your own turn on so that you can bring it to your relationship. This takes so much pressure off him (or her if you are in a same sex relationship).

Find your orgasm, find your turn on, come to your relationship turned on by life!

Let your intimacy inspire you both.