Experience profound change through pleasure

Go into flow and rewire your subconscious mind to respect your body temple and gain the most pleasure from your body and life.
Being auto-erotic empowers all areas of your life. Our orgasmic energy is creative energy. Use this powerful meditation lying, sitting, walking or with your OYoga practice to elevate your energy, spark your creativity and inspire your life.

Do you need “likes”

face book likesHave you ever got lost down the rabbit hole of facebook, LinkedIn or other popular social media website. You can lose hours then suddenly look up at the time in surprise and wonder where that time went. This isn’t flow. This is distraction. This is a time drain. It may make you feel good, even validated, but in the end you have lost valuable time and attention that could have been focused elsewhere.

FaceBook ‘likes’ might feel good but I am very worried that a lot of people become dependant on them and even addicted to getting more and more likes. It is creating a culture of needing to be validated. It is creating a ‘neediness’.

 

On the subject of relationships, do you need your partner to validate you? Do you need your partner to turn you on and make you feel good. Do you expect that from them or are you in charge of your own turn on, your own feel good, your own orgasms?

 

Orgasmic Flow is about being turned on by life. It is about finding validation and inspiration from the experience of flow. It does not depend on likes from anyone or internet social media. It depends on you. It is what you contribute to your relationship not expect from it.

Finding flow is a unique experience and once you have been in flow you may not even know how you got there or how to get back into it. When you are in flow you can lose track of time and place even. You feel so absorbed by what you are doing that nothing much else matters. It feels so good to be in flow that it can become a divine experience. You let go of ego and any need to have anyone validate what you are doing or why. It gives you a sense of freedom and a state free from worry.

Orgasmic flow is very powerful. Think Flow under a magnifying glass. If you don’t think you have ever experienced flow you would have, even if it was when you were a child immersed in play. When you do experience orgasmic flow, everything is intensified. Orgasmic flow is not short lived like a physical orgasm. Orgasmic flow lasts long after the memory of any orgasms. You can carry a state of orgasmic flow with you for hours and even days. You can be in a state of orgasmic state for a long period of time that you start to wonder if you will ever come out of it. Guilt starts to kick in because you are not used to feeling this good for this long. Don’t sabotage it! You are meant to feel this good.

Inspiration and creativity are natural by products of Orgasmic Flow. Whatever your project is that you are working on, focus on a relevant intention during orgasmic flow and keep a pen and paper handy then just go with the flow. Write everything down even if it doesn’t make sense at the time. Orgasmic Flow connects you to your source of inspiration. You won’t need anyone’s ‘likes’ or validation when you are in Orgasmic Flow!

 

How Flow Improves Your Relationship

Research shows that in normal marriages and relationships, spending more time together does not improve or increase the quality of the relationship. (Gager & Sanchez, 2003; Huston, McHale & Crouter, 1986)

The way in which the couple spends their time together is important. (Graham 2008)

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Studies haveĀ  also be narrowed this down even more, defining that participating in co-joint activities is good but active involvement in exciting activities is even more strongly associated with relationship quality. That means that Saturday date night at the fancy restaurant and movies after is very pleasurable but are not as effective as be involved in more exciting and challenging activities together like sailing or hiking.

Novel, exciting and challenging activities promote self expansion and opportunities for growth. This idea fits in with the self expansion model developed out of research by Dutton & Aron, who were initially researching arousal and attraction.

The Self Expansion Model describes love as a result of the motivation toward growth and self expansion. (Graham 2008)

When a person experiences exciting and challenging new things with a partner, they incorporate and associate their positive self expansion with their partner. This creates a strong and positive connection that promotes intimacy and enduring friendship. The relationship is seen as inspiring and is highly valued.

A new relationship is exciting and challenging as each person has to focus his or her attention in a wide variety of engaging and communicating activities. As the relationship progresses there are less and less challenges and opportunities for growth and boredom sets in. Relationship satisfaction decreases over time. Couples that do say their relationships are satisfying regularly continue to find new ways to engage in exciting co-joint activities that inspire them to exercise skills and grow together.

These couples experience FLOW together. They lose track of time and are totally immersed in what they are doing. They are focused, creative and happy being involved in their project or activity together. They are in the zone together. They challenge and inspire each other. They incorporate positive aspects of each other into their own personality.

A couple that flows together stays together.

Flow is described as the optimal human experience. Flow is a mental state when you are engaged in a highly challenging activity that matches you current skill level. When you completely engaged in an activity experiencing flow, it feels effortless and you feel invigorated and energised. It doesn’t matter what the outcome of the activity is as the activity itself is the reward.

Activities that are intrinsically motivating promote engagement and growth; it is those type of activities that are more likely to facilitate the experience of flow. (Csikszentmihalyi)

When a relationship reaches the point of both people feeling secure and loved, it provides a solid base for even more explorations and growth.