Do you need “likes”

face book likesHave you ever got lost down the rabbit hole of facebook, LinkedIn or other popular social media website. You can lose hours then suddenly look up at the time in surprise and wonder where that time went. This isn’t flow. This is distraction. This is a time drain. It may make you feel good, even validated, but in the end you have lost valuable time and attention that could have been focused elsewhere.

FaceBook ‘likes’ might feel good but I am very worried that a lot of people become dependant on them and even addicted to getting more and more likes. It is creating a culture of needing to be validated. It is creating a ‘neediness’.

 

On the subject of relationships, do you need your partner to validate you? Do you need your partner to turn you on and make you feel good. Do you expect that from them or are you in charge of your own turn on, your own feel good, your own orgasms?

 

Orgasmic Flow is about being turned on by life. It is about finding validation and inspiration from the experience of flow. It does not depend on likes from anyone or internet social media. It depends on you. It is what you contribute to your relationship not expect from it.

Finding flow is a unique experience and once you have been in flow you may not even know how you got there or how to get back into it. When you are in flow you can lose track of time and place even. You feel so absorbed by what you are doing that nothing much else matters. It feels so good to be in flow that it can become a divine experience. You let go of ego and any need to have anyone validate what you are doing or why. It gives you a sense of freedom and a state free from worry.

Orgasmic flow is very powerful. Think Flow under a magnifying glass. If you don’t think you have ever experienced flow you would have, even if it was when you were a child immersed in play. When you do experience orgasmic flow, everything is intensified. Orgasmic flow is not short lived like a physical orgasm. Orgasmic flow lasts long after the memory of any orgasms. You can carry a state of orgasmic flow with you for hours and even days. You can be in a state of orgasmic state for a long period of time that you start to wonder if you will ever come out of it. Guilt starts to kick in because you are not used to feeling this good for this long. Don’t sabotage it! You are meant to feel this good.

Inspiration and creativity are natural by products of Orgasmic Flow. Whatever your project is that you are working on, focus on a relevant intention during orgasmic flow and keep a pen and paper handy then just go with the flow. Write everything down even if it doesn’t make sense at the time. Orgasmic Flow connects you to your source of inspiration. You won’t need anyone’s ‘likes’ or validation when you are in Orgasmic Flow!

 

Sensual flow for couples

What do remember most about first meeting and falling in love with someone?

Was it the excitement of connecting with someone who turned you on? Was it the relief that you could relate to someone and they ‘got you’? Was the the giddy feeling that came over you whenever you heard their voice? Or was it their touch?

We can usually remember that amazing feeling of falling in love which in the long run isn’t really sustainable…… or is it? No, it’s not meant to last and never does you might say. What can we do though to build and sustain an exciting fulfilling relationship that keeps turning us on? FLOW. 

I’ve talked about before how couples who flow together grow together. That is couples that engage in activities that take them into a state of flow enhances their experience of happiness and satisfaction, as a couple and in life in general.

Here’s another way to engage in flow together……. get into sensual flow. Sensual flow is devoting time and touch to each other. Sensual flow connects couples through touch, oxytocin and dopamine and inspiration.

So how to you get into sensual flow together? One of the easiest and funnest ways is sensual massage. Use lots of oil, have calming music playing, lock the door and play. Lose any expectations of the massage ending up sexual. It’s all about touch, connection and flow through turn on.

Set an intention together and then go with the flow. The flow of oil, the flow of music, the flow of touch. The serendipitous thing about sensual massage is that it is easier for the giver to go into flow than the receiver. Giving a sensual massage is like an unchoreographed dance. The flow of your hands on a naked body can take you to a world you have never been before.

Remember allow time and devote this time to each other, sensual flow and your relationship will take on a new energy. Go with the flow, the sensual flow!

You may also want to try OYoga together.

 

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Flow

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Have you ever been so absorbed in something that nothing else mattered? Have you ever felt so “in the zone” that what you were doing just flowed effortlessly? Have you been in a state where inspiration flowed and you don’t even know where your ideas came from? Have you ever felt ‘a knowing’ so deep that it had to be the right path/decision/inspiration? Did you notice that during these times you felt so good, it felt so right, that you were happiest and most creative and inspired? You were in FLOW. It not only feels fantastic to be in flow, it can be a way you reconnect with your intuition, your creativity, wellbeing and your divine being.

What is flow?

The state of flow has been studied by psychologist Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi. His goal was to understand happiness and what made life worth living. We tend to lump this responsibility on to our loved ones and usually end up frustrated and disappointed. The answer to a fulfilling life is not just love.

Csikzentmihalyi found out through his research that it was people who spent time in a flow state to be happiest more productive and creative. Further research by Graham found that couples who engaged in activities of flow together had happier relationships. When we are experiencing flow, certain parts of the brain become quieter especially the superior frontal gyrus. This siliences our inner critic and fears allowing intense focus and inspiration to flow freely uninhibited.

So when we are in a state of flow it is easier to think more creatively and more courageously. Your sense of self expands and you are able to imagine new possibilities. We are too involved in what we are doing to protect our ego and we emerge from a state of flow with a greater sense of self. We forget ourselves and become totally immersed in what we are doing. It is a highly productive and creative state. We may even forget to eat for an extended period of time and tiredness isn’t felt. A super focused mind is far more efficient and creative than a distracted mind. We solve problems faster and can even feel tapped in to intuition and divine guidance. Most importantly, it feels effortless and we emerge feeling inspired and turned on by life.

The state of flow is a healing state as it changes the chemistry of the brain. There are five potent neurochemicals that are released when we are in flow that amplify the immune system; dopamine, noradrenaline, endorphins, serotonin and anandamide. (Kotler 2014)

The state of flow buys us moments of freedom that help the body and mind heal.

Flow reconnects us to our self and reminds us how good we are meant to feel.

So What is Orgasmic Flow?

Orgasmic flow is not just about orgasm. It is about being turned on by life and in a state of flow. Orgasmic flow starts with energy, sensual energy we build from our OYoga practice. We combine that energy with intention or what is called Intimate Inspirations. Where your focus goes your energy flows.

Without focused intention, our energy can become scattered and confusing and even overwhelming and in reaction we can shut it down again. OYoga is a very intentional practice that helps us feel and direct sensual energy towards an inspiring and exceptional life. It is through OYoga that we can reach a state of flow, orgasmic flow. Our orgasmic flow state acts like a magnifying glass taking us deeper into our intentions and inspirations.

What does Orgasmic Flow feel like?

  • Complete absorption in what you are doing.
  • Turned on by what you are doing.
  • Clarity and a feeling of knowing without doubt.
  • Confidence without your inner critic.
  • Freedom from worry about what anyone thinks about you.
  • Timelessness and egolessness.
  • Empowerment.
  • Control and a sense of mastery.
  • Creative and inspired. Keep a pen and paper handy when you are in flow.