When you don’t set personal boundaries often it becomes evident when the last straw breaks the camels back. You reach a point when you actually feel your spirit literally deflate. Why do we fail to set appropriate boundaries and why don’t we eve realise we don’t until we feel our soul shrivel or cry out in a last ditch effort to survive?
How can we learn where our boundaries are and become vigilant at keeping them to keep our soul from bleeding and our spirit drained of energy?
When we don’t set boundaries we actually de-self ourselves for the sake of pleasing others. This is more than de-selfing our ego, it involves our spirit and soul, and soul depression is the worst kind. We cannot love authentically when we don’t define and set our boundaries.
The first step is defining our boundaries to our self. If we can’t tell our self what our boundaries are, how can we let others know and prevent others from crossing them?
If you don’t know what your personal boundaries are, take time to work on your values first. From here you can work out your boundaries. The more you reinforce your boundaries the stronger they will become and you will be protecting your soul at its core.
We are our own worst enemies when it comes to boundaries.
An example of women finally acknowledging and beginning to set our boundaries is the #metoo movement.
Yes, let the world know you have been violated as a woman but also create and actively voice stronger boundaries. We violate ourselves when we let our boundaries crossed.
We sell our own soul to the devil because of fear of loss.
Job loss, financial loss, and loss of “approval”.
Start with the basic though. Every boundary that maintains your authenticity and your spiritual energy is important. You can not control people’s behavior but you can let your own values and boundaries be known. No, I don’t watch TV after 7pm at night. No, I don’t eat bread with dinner. No I can’t miss my lunch time yoga session to go shopping with you.
No, I don’t tolerate hanging around people who complain and whinge as their main form of communication.
Start with the smaller boundaries and build self respect. It actually is harder to protect the boundaries that we perceive as less significant but that does not make them any less than important. Every boundary we set protects our integrity.
Protect your spirit, be authentic to your soul, set and maintain healthy boundaries.
If your energy feels drained in crowds and loud concerts, don’t give in just one time to please your boyfriend.
Saying no is a boundary setter. No is a positively powerful word and you are allowed to use it!
We often let our boundaries be walked on because of fear of criticism and judgment. Guess what! People criticize, people judge! Your boundaries are far more important.
You are not inflexible or frigid, setting boundaries is a part of maintaining your solid sense of yourself.
How often do you end or remove yourself from a relationship feeling drained? Now in hindsight can you see where you haven’t set healthy boundaries in that relationship?
To not set boundaries is to lose your integrity. To not set boundaries is to lose yourself. You can actually feel yourself doing it, betraying yourself
For your spirit to soar you need boundaries.
To be turned on by life, you need healthy boundaries.
Set your intention and let others know. Don’t keep your boundaries a secret , they will save your soul. Other wise you will end up living a life that is not yours.
You don’t have to run or build fences to keep people out, just maintain your integrity with boundaries.
Without healthy boundaries your soul haemarhages until you either sink into depression or find resolve
I hope you find your resolve moment , it will be a turning point in your life and you will never look back. Resolve creates bulletproof boundaries. Whatever triggers resolve will be the best gift you will ever receive. Turn the cup over and remember your moment. It is worth its weight in gold.
resolve , a turning of the cup experience, you will recognize it when it happens. You may feel like throwing in the towel. It feels like utter frustration. That frustration is you needing others to change. It is not them that needs to change, it is your boundaries you need to enforce. Your integrity that you need to protect.
and with it comes respect. Respect from others and more importantly self respect.
how long will it take for you to strengthen your boundaries?
Make it your intention, your intimate inspiration.
when your boundaries are weak, your integrity is weak, you health also becomes weak. An iridologist would call it your constitution which is a very good description of the overall byproduct of not maintaining boundaries, weak constitution.
It can be strengthened, instantly. When you engage your boundaries your engage your immune system.
There is a direct energetic link. Boundaries not only strengthen your integrity and spirit, boundaries strengthen your mental and physical health, instantly.
don’t take my word for it, experience it for yourself.
Integrity, not just a goody goody word that you hear from preachers. Integrity and boundaries will save your soul, enlighten your spirit and keep you in the realm of being turned on by life. It’s matter of respect, self respect.
You can not create a solid sense of your self through likes on social media. You are actually creating the opposite which is a reflected sense of self A reflected sense of self is highly unstable volatile and dangerous. It is soul depleting.
Self love does not come from others loving you. Self love comes from maintaining healthy boundaries and begins with self respect.
Yoga honors your body, mind and soul. A consistent yoga practice sends messages of self respect and self honoring and affects you at a core level. Set your intention mindfully. A yoga practice is not about the tightest leggings or the most perfect pose.
If you are still having trouble understanding your boundaries to create a solid sense of self, journaling about your feelings and experiences helps. Introspection, honoring your emotional response to people and situations. Journal about it to gain clarity. Journal about your values. Journal about what honours your bliss and positive experience of this life. This life is yours. Set your boundaries.
If you consider yourself a spiritual person it is even more important you look at your boundaries. Spiritual people are more accommodating, forgiving and flexible. These are good values but are open to boundary violations from others. Spiritual people are a shining beacon for energy vampires to take advantage of. Remember it is your responsibility to maintain boundaries and it is your responsibility to stay turned on by life.
So from today’s intimate inspiration
I’d like you to create your own intention. What inspires you? After all, it is your integrity that is at stake here, it is your spirit and soul that can only be respected by you!
I respect and maintain my boundaries.
I respect and maintain my boundaries…..
Do you respect yours?