How Flow and Orgasm are Connected

So what is OYoga really about?

Orgasmic Flow……..

Inspiration!

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Creativity.

Finding flow through orgasm and meditation.

Connecting with your sensuality.

Healing sexual shame.

The connection between flow and orgasm?

When you orgasm you let go. You let go of who you are, who you are meant to be and all those expectations you place on yourself. Nothing else matters except for that moment in time.

You let go of your nagging self consciousness, your negative self labels and your worry list.

Orgasm is egoless and timeless.

Orgasmic Flow is a continuation of a momentary orgasm. It is a state of being which you can carry with you after the orgasm has passed. Orgasmic Flow gives you the feeling of being turned on by life.

Everything is magnified. Your senses experience more. Life has more colour. You start to really feel yourself, feel life, in colour. You pull yourself out of the drab and grey monochromatic drudgery of just getting through your day.

Life becomes inspiring. You become inspired, connected, creative. You have found a way to get in touch with your divinity.

Learning how to reach Orgasmic Flow helps you take control of your own pleasure so the expectation is not on your partner or lover. You let go of the expectation that your partner should turn you on and make you feel good and fulfil all your fantasies. You don’t need it anymore. You have control. You are sensual, you are turned on.

This has ripple effects in your life. When you improve your connection with yourself and self awareness improves, all your relationships improve.

You lose the expectations of people needing to make you feel happy. You take control of your own happiness. You give from a place of fullness. It is no longer a struggle for validation and needing to be approved of.

Orgasmic Flow = Turned on by life!

How long does it take to reach Orgasmic Flow?

I’ve been practicing for years and I love nothing more than to devote 2 hours to my OYoga practice. That of course is not always possible. I can take myself to  my magical state of orgasmic flow in less than 10 minutes. And sometimes that’s all I need to change the colour of my day and recharge my energy levels, raise my vibrations and get some inspiration flowing.

It is truly magical, I couldn’t imagine my life without my OYoga practice now. The world is literally a different colour and the senses become heightened. You become more sensual. You feel things in a more sensual way. You enjoy your body more.

One of my favourite intentions with my OYoga practice is “My body is my greatest source of pleasure” and it truly is. OYoga re-sculptures the way you think and feel about your body and therefore it literally does resculpture and refines your body. I never ever tell myself I need to lose weight, that is so anti-inspirational. I just continue to re-sculpture with OYoga if I feel I have let a few kilograms creep on.

When my vibrations are high I can literally feel vibrations and tingling in my sacral chakra. It’s a reminder how good life can feel and it also reminds me to keep up my inspirational practice of OYoga, even if it is only 10 minutes a day. It is always a practice that honours my body and stimulates my inspiration. And I always have something to write about after my practice.

Do you need “likes”

face book likesHave you ever got lost down the rabbit hole of facebook, LinkedIn or other popular social media website. You can lose hours then suddenly look up at the time in surprise and wonder where that time went. This isn’t flow. This is distraction. This is a time drain. It may make you feel good, even validated, but in the end you have lost valuable time and attention that could have been focused elsewhere.

FaceBook ‘likes’ might feel good but I am very worried that a lot of people become dependant on them and even addicted to getting more and more likes. It is creating a culture of needing to be validated. It is creating a ‘neediness’.

 

On the subject of relationships, do you need your partner to validate you? Do you need your partner to turn you on and make you feel good. Do you expect that from them or are you in charge of your own turn on, your own feel good, your own orgasms?

 

Orgasmic Flow is about being turned on by life. It is about finding validation and inspiration from the experience of flow. It does not depend on likes from anyone or internet social media. It depends on you. It is what you contribute to your relationship not expect from it.

Finding flow is a unique experience and once you have been in flow you may not even know how you got there or how to get back into it. When you are in flow you can lose track of time and place even. You feel so absorbed by what you are doing that nothing much else matters. It feels so good to be in flow that it can become a divine experience. You let go of ego and any need to have anyone validate what you are doing or why. It gives you a sense of freedom and a state free from worry.

Orgasmic flow is very powerful. Think Flow under a magnifying glass. If you don’t think you have ever experienced flow you would have, even if it was when you were a child immersed in play. When you do experience orgasmic flow, everything is intensified. Orgasmic flow is not short lived like a physical orgasm. Orgasmic flow lasts long after the memory of any orgasms. You can carry a state of orgasmic flow with you for hours and even days. You can be in a state of orgasmic state for a long period of time that you start to wonder if you will ever come out of it. Guilt starts to kick in because you are not used to feeling this good for this long. Don’t sabotage it! You are meant to feel this good.

Inspiration and creativity are natural by products of Orgasmic Flow. Whatever your project is that you are working on, focus on a relevant intention during orgasmic flow and keep a pen and paper handy then just go with the flow. Write everything down even if it doesn’t make sense at the time. Orgasmic Flow connects you to your source of inspiration. You won’t need anyone’s ‘likes’ or validation when you are in Orgasmic Flow!

 

The “Sexy Dag”

What! You’ve never heard of the word dag before? Let me start by defining the word “dag.” Dag is an Australian word, that’s why my spellcheck doesn’t like it. It actually means the matted wool on a sheeps rear end often involving faeces. In Australia we use it in colloquial English referring to someone who has no fashion sense and acts a little goofy.

So what is a Sexy Dag then you ask? A sexy dag is someone who has a very sexy energy, a high vibration that is attractive and yet they themselves are not dressed attractively or provocatively. It is their energy.

A sexy dag is someone that unconsciously draws you in and intrigues you. Have you ever seen the movie with Cameron Diaz called Something About Mary? Cameron’s character in that movie was a sexy dag. There was something about her that turned people on and was very like able but it certainly wasn’t the way she dressed or acted.

It was her energy and she was turned on by life and didn’t need to be affirmed by others.

I think a sexy dag is something to aspire to be. We try too hard to look good, act appropriately and win friends and influence people. For a sexy dag none of this matters and it happens naturally. Even when a sexy dag is not dressed fashionably they still look good for some reason. Even when they act goofy or inappropriately they are still likable and attractive. Their energy over rides all superficial appearances.

So my advice to you is be a sexy dag ( without trying too hard of course). Raise your vibrations, be turned on by life, love who you are and who you are with. It’s your energy not your appearances.

Sensual flow for couples

What do remember most about first meeting and falling in love with someone?

Was it the excitement of connecting with someone who turned you on? Was it the relief that you could relate to someone and they ‘got you’? Was the the giddy feeling that came over you whenever you heard their voice? Or was it their touch?

We can usually remember that amazing feeling of falling in love which in the long run isn’t really sustainable…… or is it? No, it’s not meant to last and never does you might say. What can we do though to build and sustain an exciting fulfilling relationship that keeps turning us on? FLOW. 

I’ve talked about before how couples who flow together grow together. That is couples that engage in activities that take them into a state of flow enhances their experience of happiness and satisfaction, as a couple and in life in general.

Here’s another way to engage in flow together……. get into sensual flow. Sensual flow is devoting time and touch to each other. Sensual flow connects couples through touch, oxytocin and dopamine and inspiration.

So how to you get into sensual flow together? One of the easiest and funnest ways is sensual massage. Use lots of oil, have calming music playing, lock the door and play. Lose any expectations of the massage ending up sexual. It’s all about touch, connection and flow through turn on.

Set an intention together and then go with the flow. The flow of oil, the flow of music, the flow of touch. The serendipitous thing about sensual massage is that it is easier for the giver to go into flow than the receiver. Giving a sensual massage is like an unchoreographed dance. The flow of your hands on a naked body can take you to a world you have never been before.

Remember allow time and devote this time to each other, sensual flow and your relationship will take on a new energy. Go with the flow, the sensual flow!

You may also want to try OYoga together.

 

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How to inspire your relationship and sex life

What turns you on? Do you know that you are auto-erotic? Can you allow yourself to be auto-erotic or have you spent most of your life suppressing your sexuality and desire?

“sexual desire is energy- a sustainable resource that’s available to us if we want it, even those of us who may not have it right now.” Gina Ogden; The Return of Desire.

So many of us live our lives numb to pleasure and desire. We have put up walls and defences to traumas that we aren’t even aware about. We find our sexual relationships stuck in Ground Hog day, repeating painful patterns that end up in even more defences.

Research has shown that sexual and spiritual experience share a common and undeniable core quality: a hunger for connection and meaning. (Ogden 2008)

Your sexuality is not just about intercourse. Sexual energy is creative energy, it is inspiring energy, it is divine energy. You can feel it when you feel connected to the earth and your authentic self. Being auto-erotic is being turned on by life, turned on by a beautiful sunset. It is being turned on by the way we can move and how healthy we feel. It is being turned on by an exciting and new idea. It is random waves of euphoria that wash over us at unexpected moments during an average day. It is feeling connected, to ourself, to others, to strangers, to the universe. It is a way of being.

When discover our own “turn on” and feel “auto-erotic” then we can bring this to our relationship to re-inspire it. It is then no longer the responsibility of our partner to turn us on, because we already are. This takes a lot of pressure and expectations off our relationship to fulfill us. We are then bringing a renewed and fresh energy to our relationship. Your partner will truly appreciate you more and probably fall in love with you all over again.

OYoga’s approach to sexual desire is much more than physical. Your sexuality is connected to your spirituality and if you allow yourself to go deeper and find orgasmic flow you can construct your life around what is meaningful and inspirational.

OYoga’s philosophy centres on inspiring your life and keeping you turned on by life. OYoga and Orgasmic flow is a transformational practice and brings pleasure that touches your core. You can create an energy that not only infuses and inspires your own heart and soul but also inspires your relationship.

Orgasm wakes us up and ignites our energy. Orgasmic Flow takes us deeper into a spiritual realm of inspiration and divine connection. Connecting with your own orgasmic flow enhances your relationship with yourself and your partner.

I invite you to re-inspire your life and relationship with OYoga and Intimate Inspirations.

Flow

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Have you ever been so absorbed in something that nothing else mattered? Have you ever felt so “in the zone” that what you were doing just flowed effortlessly? Have you been in a state where inspiration flowed and you don’t even know where your ideas came from? Have you ever felt ‘a knowing’ so deep that it had to be the right path/decision/inspiration? Did you notice that during these times you felt so good, it felt so right, that you were happiest and most creative and inspired? You were in FLOW. It not only feels fantastic to be in flow, it can be a way you reconnect with your intuition, your creativity, wellbeing and your divine being.

What is flow?

The state of flow has been studied by psychologist Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi. His goal was to understand happiness and what made life worth living. We tend to lump this responsibility on to our loved ones and usually end up frustrated and disappointed. The answer to a fulfilling life is not just love.

Csikzentmihalyi found out through his research that it was people who spent time in a flow state to be happiest more productive and creative. Further research by Graham found that couples who engaged in activities of flow together had happier relationships. When we are experiencing flow, certain parts of the brain become quieter especially the superior frontal gyrus. This siliences our inner critic and fears allowing intense focus and inspiration to flow freely uninhibited.

So when we are in a state of flow it is easier to think more creatively and more courageously. Your sense of self expands and you are able to imagine new possibilities. We are too involved in what we are doing to protect our ego and we emerge from a state of flow with a greater sense of self. We forget ourselves and become totally immersed in what we are doing. It is a highly productive and creative state. We may even forget to eat for an extended period of time and tiredness isn’t felt. A super focused mind is far more efficient and creative than a distracted mind. We solve problems faster and can even feel tapped in to intuition and divine guidance. Most importantly, it feels effortless and we emerge feeling inspired and turned on by life.

The state of flow is a healing state as it changes the chemistry of the brain. There are five potent neurochemicals that are released when we are in flow that amplify the immune system; dopamine, noradrenaline, endorphins, serotonin and anandamide. (Kotler 2014)

The state of flow buys us moments of freedom that help the body and mind heal.

Flow reconnects us to our self and reminds us how good we are meant to feel.

So What is Orgasmic Flow?

Orgasmic flow is not just about orgasm. It is about being turned on by life and in a state of flow. Orgasmic flow starts with energy, sensual energy we build from our OYoga practice. We combine that energy with intention or what is called Intimate Inspirations. Where your focus goes your energy flows.

Without focused intention, our energy can become scattered and confusing and even overwhelming and in reaction we can shut it down again. OYoga is a very intentional practice that helps us feel and direct sensual energy towards an inspiring and exceptional life. It is through OYoga that we can reach a state of flow, orgasmic flow. Our orgasmic flow state acts like a magnifying glass taking us deeper into our intentions and inspirations.

What does Orgasmic Flow feel like?

  • Complete absorption in what you are doing.
  • Turned on by what you are doing.
  • Clarity and a feeling of knowing without doubt.
  • Confidence without your inner critic.
  • Freedom from worry about what anyone thinks about you.
  • Timelessness and egolessness.
  • Empowerment.
  • Control and a sense of mastery.
  • Creative and inspired. Keep a pen and paper handy when you are in flow.